This took me a really long time to write. I was not even sure about writing this, but I did promise to highlight challenges that men face, so here goes….
Sexual harassment amongst men.
Yes, you read that right. Men do face sexual harassment, whether it is in the workplace or in private, there are times when they too feel vulnerable, while doing research for this blog, I came across a very sad and disturbing article. The article read:
Two young men began working as Assistant Managers at a New Jersey grocery store in 1999. Both males filed job discrimination complaints with the EEOC after they stopped working at the store.
The first male claims that a female Assistant Manager made unwelcome sexual comments to him shortly after he started working at the store. The female was promoted to Store Manager a few months later. The young man claims that the harassment continued and that the Store Manager talked to him about her sexual desires and her affairs with other male workers. He also states that she rubbed her body suggestively against his and flashed her bra and breasts at him in the store. The young man quit because of the female manager’s behavior.
The second employee claims that he experienced similar harassment. He contends that the Store Manager called him “baby,” told other workers that she was his girlfriend, and flashed her bra at him. When this young man discovered that the first employee had quit because of the harassment, he argued with the Store Manager, who suspended him. The young man complained the next day to the District Manager. However, the company fired him for “unprofessional conduct.”
Now when most people read this, their first thought is, “what’s wrong with that” or “he should have taken what was offered” or maybe even “why would those men turn down or report this incident”. People laugh at men when they face sexual harassment incidents or when they report their cases, but what if the wheels turned..
What if it was a man who took of his shirt and flashed his asset to a woman? what if a man rubbed his body suggestively against a female colleague? Would that be considered sexual harassment?
There are so many cases where men are harassed but they are too afraid to speak out, too afraid that society will laugh and mock them, they are afraid that people would call them cowards, or say they are not man enough. Is that the world you want your son’s to grow up in? A world where they are not allowed to speak?
To any man who has or is facing any kind of harassment, I stand with you! I urge you to speak up and report it, because if one person talks then the rest will too.
Let us start making this world a better place..